Helping women feel able to better face the decision on whether their marriage can be saved, to find strength to face the situation and deal with the emotions
Many marriages go through difficult patches and some reach a point where it feels like you've grown apart be it in love, friendship or respect. There are marriage counsellors who can help but also other resources to help you look at whether repairing your marriage will bring a better sense of happiness, worth, and fulfilment than ending it.
Websites Offering Support:
Relate
is the UK’s largest provider of relationship support, and every year they help over a million people of all ages, backgrounds and sexual orientations to strengthen their relationships. They have a specific page with advice and how to find support on getting over a breakup – how to let go and move on. If you’re going through a break up or separation there are lots of ways Relate can support you.
- Try a free Live Chat with a Relationship Counsellor
- Call 0300 100 1234 to find your local Relate Centre
- Read articles on the website
Pure Peace
Martial Problems, Affairs, Separation and Divorce often trigger emotional chaos, confusion, feelings of rejection and failure.
Nicola Beer says she see firsthand the devastating impact it can have on couples and individuals lives. But it doesn’t have to be like that!
Nicola Beer Podcast Channel
Do you want to save and revive your marriage? Create a new life after divorce? Or perhaps help your children through divorce? This show focuses on helping executives, professionals and expats get unstuck, create change, heal their life and relationships after marriage breakdown and divorce. The show includes tips from Nicola Beer, an International Relationship & Divorce coach as well as interviews with best-selling authors, speakers, divorce lawyers and mediators.
Five Love Languages
This website goes alongside the best-selling book. Here you can take tests to see your Love Language and find other supporting material.
“The UK’s Best-Known Marital Therapist”
Andrew G. Marshall has thirty years experience helping couples and individuals and has written sixteen books. As well as books, Andrew offers counselling in London and Sussex and enjoys speaking engagements where he can pass on his message that relationship needs skills as well as connection and the good news if those skills can be taught, so you can turn round your relationship.
Andrew developed his own method which blends psycho-dynamic counselling (which looks at your past and how it affects today) with systemic counselling (which focuses on how your relationship works today and what would improve matters). He leads a team of three therapists in London offering the Marshall Method and has plans to extend the service to other parts of the country.
Books on this subject:
Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married
With more than 35 years of experience counseling couples, Gary has found that most marriages suffer due to a lack of preparation and a failure to learn to work together as intimate teammates.
So he put together this practical little book, packed with wisdom and tips that will help many develop the loving, supportive, and mutually beneficial marriage they envision, such as:
- What the adequate foundation for a successful marriage truly is
- What to expect about the roles and influence of extended family
- How to solve disagreements without arguing
- How to talk through issues like money, sex, chores, and more
- Why couples must learn how to apologize and forgive
Ideal for newly married couples and those considering marriage, the material lends itself to heart-felt, revealing, and critical conversations for relational success.
Read this book and you ll be prepared for not surprised by the challenges of marriage.
Or The 5 Love Languages/Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married Set – Kindle Edition
The 5 Love Languages
Falling in love is easy. Staying in love–that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?
In the #1 New York Times bestseller The 5 Love Languages, you’ll discover the secret that has transformed millions of relationships worldwide. Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s proven approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner–starting today.
The 5 Love Languages is as practical as it is insightful. Updated to reflect the complexities of relationships today, this new edition reveals intrinsic truths and applies relevant, actionable wisdom in ways that work.
Includes the Couple’s Personal Profile assessment so you can discover your love language and that of your loved one.
Or The 5 Love Languages/Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married Set Buy here
One More Try
When doors slam and angry words fly, when things just aren’t working out, and even when your spouse has destroyed your trust, there is hope. If you feel like your marriage is near the breaking point – even if you have already split up – Gary Chapman will show you how you can give your marriage one more try. Separation does not necessarily mean divorce is imminent. Matter of fact, it’s possible that separation may even lead to a restored, enriched, growing marriage. The outcome of this time of transition is determined solely by the individuals involved. If you’re willing to make the most of that process, begin the journey with confidence as Gary walks you step-by-step towards healing and hope.
Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: A Practical Guide for Improving Communication and Getting What You Want in Your Relationships: How to Get What You Want in Your Relationships
Gray’s insights into how to allow your other half to “pull away” like an elastic band, prevent your emotional baggage from polluting your current relationship, and translate the phrases of the opposite sex are as relevant now as when they were first published.
With straightforward, honest writing from that precious male perspective, Gray unlocks the secrets hidden in your partner’s words and actions to enable you both to reach true mutual understanding and a lifetime of love.
I Love You but I’m Not in Love with You: Seven Steps to Saving Your Relationship
How do you fall back in love? This was the underlying problem of one in four couples seeking help from relationship therapist Andrew G. Marshall. They described their problem as: ‘I love you but I’m not in love with you’. Noticing how widespread the phenomenon had become, he decided to look more closely. Why were these relationships becoming defined more by companionship than by passion, and why was companionship no longer enough?
How To Save Your Marriage: 9 simple tips to fix your wobbly relationship
Look at some concepts that are touched on in this book:
- Learn the importance of balance and compromise throughout your relationship
- Recognize why sex needs to be more than sex and the real meaning of intimacy
- Learn what it means to let a person have space in the home and why this is needed
- Remember how to smile and laugh at yourselves, even during the most difficult time in your marriage
- Practice kindness on a daily basis, not only with your partner but with your partner and the people you come into contact with daily
- Be patient as you and partner rediscover things about yourselves or discover things for the first time together
- Uncover the truth about effective communication and how the majority of conflicts in a marriage are a result of poor communication
- the tenets of respect in a marriage and assess if your own relationship is lacking in this area
- Reciprocate the admiration you receive from your partner and remember what it is you fell in love with in the first place!
How to Save Your Marriage When Trust Is Broken: Discover 10 Simple Steps to Turn Your Broken Trust Into a Happy Marriage
You opened up your heart and gave it your all – raw, exposed, and completely vulnerable.
This time it was worth it, this time it was for everything.
But then the trust was broken, and now you’re wondering if things will ever be the same again. I mean how could they be right, you trusted them!
This is a common theme among relationships and although avoidable, it happens. To maintain unwavering and full trust in another over a lifetime of relationship requires effort and commitment.
The good news is, even if the trust has been broken this same effort and commitment can restore everything and can even enhance the bonds of love and intimacy.
Did you know that over 20% of couples who have experienced broken trust repair their relationship and move forward into unconditional love? A number that would be even higher if the same study hadn’t shown that in 55% of such occurrences one individual immediately gave up on their significant other…
How Can I Ever Trust You Again? Infidelity: From Discovery to Recovery in Seven Steps
Millions upon millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains:
– The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery.
– What makes people more vulnerable to affairs.
– The eight types of affairs and how understanding your partner’s affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go.
– How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown.
– Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process.
For Women Only
Discover the Truth He Wants You to Know
The man in your life carries important feelings so deep inside he barely knows they re there, much less how to talk about them. Yet your man genuinely wants you to get him to understand his inner life, to know his fears and needs, to hear what he wishes he could tell you.
This book looks at what every woman single or married needs to know. Based on rigorous research with thousands of men, Shaunti delivers one eye-opening revelation after another, including:
Why your respect means more to him than your love.
How he feels deep inside about his role as provider.
What it means for a man to be so visually wired.
Why sex for him is primarily emotional, not physical.
What he most wishes he could say to you.
Millions worldwide have experienced dramatic change in their relationships because of the aha moments and practical ideas in this little book. Discover how to love your man for who he really is.
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
In the June 29th issue of Newsweek magazine Dr. Drew Pinsky named Melody Beattie’s Codependent No More one of the four essential self-help books available today, calling it the granddaddy of addiction tomes. Is someone else’s problem your problem? If, like so many others, you’ve lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else’s, you may be codependent – -and you may find yourself in this book — Codependent No More.
The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America’s best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency — charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness.
Beyond Mars and Venus: Relationship Skills for Todays Complex World
Two decades ago, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus revolutionized the way we thought about love and partnership. John Gray’s work has helped countless readers improve and even save their relationships. But as society evolves, relationships do, too. It’s time to move beyond Mars and Venus, toward a new relationship model for modern couples.
Today, men and women are no longer trapped by rigid societal roles. Now more than ever, we have the freedom to be our authentic selves. Women can access their masculine side, and men can embrace their feminine side. This new freedom is a good thing, but it also brings new challenges.
Men and women still need the right tools and skills to help build stronger relation- ships. While previous generations sought “role mate” relationships, based on the more rigid gender roles of the time, today’s couples need a new kind of relationship: a “soul mate” relationship. These more emotionally satisfying relationships require a deeper understanding of our partners’ individual needs. In Beyond Mars and Venus, Gray teaches you how to strengthen your bond and grow in love together, so you and your loved one can meet each other’s needs in the best way possible, bringing you lasting happiness and a fulfilling partnership.
Act with Love
If you have a broken relationship needing repair then this guidebook can help you handle painful thoughts and feelings and engage fully in the process of living with and loving your partner more. The techniques seek to give you a joyful and romantic relationship without expecting perfection from your partner. They can be done with your partner but can be done alone. ACT – acceptance and commitment therapy – is a simple program based on mindfulness that can help mend a broken relationship. Through it you can learn to:
- Resolve painful conflicts and reconcile long-standing differences
- Let go of conflict, open up, and live fully in the present
- Use mindfulness to increase connection, intimacy, and understanding
- Act on your values to build a rich and meaningful relationship
Videos on this subject:
Rethinking infidelity … a talk for anyone who has ever loved | Esther Perel
Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.
How to Save Your Marriage & Rebuild Trust & Love In Your Life
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