Leading clinical psychologist Lisa Damour identifies the seven key phases marking the journey from girlhood to womanhood, and offers practical advice for those raising teenage girls.

We expect an enormous amount from our teenage girls in a world where they are bombarded with messages about how they should look, behave, succeed. Yet we also speak as though adolescence is a nightmare rollercoaster ride for both parent and child, to be endured rather than enjoyed.

In Untangled, world authority and clinical psychologist Lisa Damour provides an accessible, detailed, comprehensive guide to parenting teenage girls. She believes there is a predictable blueprint for how girls grow; seven easily recognisable ‘strands’ of transition from childhood through adolescence and on to adulthood. Girls naturally develop at different rates, typically on more than one front, and the transition will be unique to every girl.

Each chapter describes a phase, such as ‘contending with adult authority’ and ‘entering the romantic world’, with hints and tips for parents and daughters, and a ‘when to worry’ section. Damour writes sympathetically and clearly, providing a practical and helpful guide for any parent, and for teenage girls too.

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In this pioneering, practical book for parents, neuroscientist Daniel J. Siegel and parenting expert Tina Payne Bryson explain the new science of how a child’s brain is wired and how it matures. Different parts of a child’s brain develop at different speeds and understanding these differences can help you turn any outburst, argument, or fear into a chance to integrate your child’s brain and raise calmer, happier children.
Featuring clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child will help your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives using twelve key strategies, including:
Name It to Tame It: Corral raging right-brain behavior through left-brain storytelling, appealing to the left brain’s affinity for words and reasoning to calm emotional storms and bodily tension.
Engage, Don’t Enrage: Keep your child thinking and listening, instead of purely reacting.
Move It or Lose It: Use physical activities to shift your child’s emotional state.
Let the Clouds of Emotion Roll By: Guide your children when they are stuck on a negative emotion, and help them understand that feelings come and go.
SIFT: Help children pay attention to the Sensations, Images, Feelings, and Thoughts within them so that they can make better decisions and be more flexible.
Connect Through Conflict: Use discord to encourage empathy and greater social success.

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Simmons shows that Good Girl pressure from parents, teachers, coaches, media, and peers erects a psychological glass ceiling that begins to enforce its confines in girlhood and extends across the female lifespan. The curse of the Good Girl erodes girls’ ability to know, express, and manage a complete range of feelings. It expects girls to be selfless, limiting the expression of their needs. It requires modesty, depriving the permission to articulate their strengths and goals. It diminishes assertive body language, quieting voices and weakening handshakes. It touches all areas of girls’ lives and follows many into adulthood, limiting their personal and professional potential.

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Every parent wants their child to be happy and every parent wants to avoid screwing them up. But how do you achieve that?

In this absorbing, clever and funny book, renowned psychotherapist Philippa Perry tells us what really matters and what behaviour it is important to avoid – the vital dos and don’ts of parenting.

Instead of mapping out the ‘perfect’ plan, Perry offers a big-picture look at the elements that lead to good parent-child relationships. This refreshing, judgement-free book will help you to:

· Understand how your own upbringing may affect your parenting
· Accept that you will make mistakes and learn what you can do about them
· Break negative cycles and patterns
· Handle your own and your child’s feelings
· Understand what different behaviours communicate

Full of sage and sane advice, this is the book that every parent will want to read and every child will wish their parents had.

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We have a tendency today to over-parent, micro-manage, and under-appreciate our adolescents. Dr. John Duffy’s The Available Parent is a revolutionary approach to taking care of teens and tweens. Teenagers are often left feeling unheard and misunderstood, and parents are left feeling bewildered by the changes in their child at adolescence and their sudden lack of effectiveness as parents. The parent has become unavailable, the teen responds in kind, and a negative, often destructive cycle of communication begins. The available parent of a teenager is open to discussion, offering advice and solutions, but not insisting on them. He allows his child to make some mistakes, setting limits, primarily where health and safety are concerned. He never lectures — he is available but not controlling. He is neither cruel nor dismissive, ever. The available parent is fun and funny, and can bring levity to the most stressful situation. All of that is to say, there are no conditions to his availability — it is absolute.

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Tracy Hogg knows babies. She can calm even the most distressed or difficult infant, because she understands their language. Hence, her clients call her ‘The Baby Whisperer’. Her incredible sensitivity and ability to read infants’ cries, coos and assorted baby noises quickly earned Tracy the admiration and gratitude of high-profile couples, including a host of celebrities.

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• Help your children to become happy, confident and self-reliant.
• Step-by-step solutions to common parenting and family challenges including whining, arguing, homework, tantrums and lack of cooperation
• Build a stronger relationship with your children and maintain it as they grow
• Take the blame out of your relationship if you have conflicting parenting styles
• Tailored to children aged 1 to 18
• Based on the latest research in child psychology and neuroscience

Through a series of easy-to-apply tools, insights from the perspective of parents and children, and real-life examples, Carole and Nadim Saad have helped thousands of parents with their parenting programme that equips parents with all the support they need to let go of the guilt and find better alternatives to time-outs, threats, rewards, yelling, giving-in and punishing.

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From curfews and cliques to sex and drugs, bestselling authors Faber and Mazlish give parents and teens the tools they need to communicate and navigate the often stormy years of adolescence. Packed with practical, accessible advice and guidelines,you’ll learn how to:

• Engage cooperation.
• Take appropriate action.
• Avoid lectures.
• Express your feelings and understand each other.
• Work out solutions together.

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The number one practical guide to making your family life less stressful and more rewarding.
In this international bestseller, experts Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish provide effective step by step techniques to help you improve and enrich your relationships with your children.

Learn how to:

• Break a pattern of arguments
• Cope with negative feelings
• Engage your child’s cooperation
• Set clear limits and maintain goodwill
• Express your emotions without being hurtful
• Resolve conflicts peacefully

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The world is getting harder for young people, and for the people who care about them: parents, teachers, school counsellors and concerned relatives. Generation Next is an organisation that gathers experts in several fields to provide information for professionals – now that expertise is gathered in this volume for everyone else. Each chapter contains easily accessible information, along with more detail and resources for those who wish to find out more.

In this comprehensive volume there will be the latest information on many topics, including:
Helping young people get help for mental health problems
Bullying
Anxiety
Depression
Understanding self-harm
Child sexual abuse
Alcohol and Drugs and how to communicate with young people about them
Teens, Parties and Alcohol: A practical guide to keeping them safe
Eating Disorders
Body Image
Resilience and Positive Psychology
Understanding the Teenage Brain
Online Time Management

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offers advice on improving communication with teenagers by giving them more responsibility for themselves and by allowing them to learn from their actions through natural consequences.

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updated with how to deal with everything from social media to online threats and porn, as well as looking at all the difficult issues of bringing up teenagers, school, sex, drugs and more. But it’s the title of the second chapter, ‘What They Do and Why’ that best captures the book’s spirit and technique, explaining how to translate teenage behaviour into its true, often less complicated meaning. One key mistake, for instance, is getting in no-win conflicts instead of having the wisdom to shut up when shutting up would be the most effective, albeit least satisfying, thing to do. Another is taking offence when the teenager views you, the adult, as idiotic. And there’s advice on what to do when this happens. The message is clear: parenting adolescents is inherently difficult. Don’t judge yourself too harshly!

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