Am I a Bully?
Our Mission: To empower girls to consider their behaviour and learn methods to control bullying behaviours.
Being a bully may not be a decision that you make consciously. However, it's important for all of us to think about how we treat others. How we feel about ourselves can have a big impact on how we behave towards others.
Our words, whether spoken, in texts or emails and our actions, directly or behind someone's back, can both have a powerful effect.
With one comment you can literally make someone's day or cause upset that will last for years. So we all need to be conscious of the effect of what we do.
Bullies can find it hard to ask for help to change - but there is help out there to help stop.
Stopping doesn't mean getting into trouble. Far from it. The reality is, no-one really likes bullying behaviour.
So parents, teachers or an older pupil who you get on well with can help. Also, many anti-bullying support groups help bullies to moderate their behaviour - they just need to ask.
Cyberbullying? Are you part of the problem or part of the solution?
The name cyberbully isn't only used for the person who originally sent the message. It also includes those people who get involved by supporting it, by forwarding it on or laughing at comments that might be hurtful or threatening.
This is such an important matter these days that cyberbullying can be a criminal offence. This would apply if, for example, the messages are threatening.
It's best to stay well clear of messages you see that are hurtful or threatening. Better still, show leadership and show you have the courage to suggest that they stop. So it's a big deal and we all have a role to play.
Cyberbullying has led to many incidents of suicide - whilst texts and social media can be great fun, that's something you don't want on your conscience.
What starts in the playground will often carry on in adult life too. This is particularly so in the workplace. Bad behaviour tends to become a habit.
In the UK, the Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service (Acas) reported having received 20,000 calls from workers related to bullying and harassment in 2016. Globally it is becoming an epidemic that needs to be addressed quickly.
Am I a bully? How do I stop being a bully?
Treat Everyone with Respect. Imagine if it was about you - how would you want to be treated?
- Nobody should be mean to others. There's is nothing to gain here. Your candle does not burn any brighter because you snub out someone else's.
- Stop and think before you say or do something that could hurt someone. Just pause for a second before you press the send button.
- If you feel like being mean to someone, find something else to do instead. There are better ways to get your kicks. Play a game, watch TV, or talk to a friend.
- Talk to an adult you trust for guidance. They can help you find ways to be nicer to others.
- Keep in mind that everyone is different. They are not better or worse than you. They are just different. Remember, what goes round comes round.
- If you think you have bullied someone in the past, have the honesty and guts to go up to them and apologise. Everyone feels better.
- Never forget that you will probably forget about that stupid text or tweet the next day. The victim may carry it with them for years. Source: www.stopbullying.gov/kids/what-you-can-do/
Why am I always an easy target for bullies?
That's an interesting question. It suggests that some people encourage being bullied more than others. If we can change our behaviour, even if it is only slightly, and become less of a target that would be well worth the effort. Below are some very useful links that will help you in this area.